Coming Out of Your Grief Cave With Healing Gratitude

Grief – A Quiz – Thanksgiving – Sorrow – Memorial Day – Loss – Healing

What Do They Have in Common? Perhaps there is a common connecting thread.

As you experience terrible grief and loss, during the dark days and nights of spirit and mind, you can feel like you are in a cave and can’t get out. It is like your soul is temporarily broken. You feel uncertain and unsettled. Having suffered in anguish from your personal grief it is reassuring to remember there is still much in life to be grateful and hopeful about.

“Gratitude is one of the sweet shortcuts to finding peace of mind and happiness inside. No matter what is going on outside of us, there’s always something we could be grateful for. ” ~Barry Neil Kaufman

Counting your blessings can lead you to finding the peace and hope you really need in times of terrible grief and loss. A grieving mind and heart can be healed. Often it is much more difficult than healing broken bones; yet, it is possible.

15 Random Quiz Questions (Cheat if you must!)
1. What color jersey is worn by the winners of each stage of the Tour DE France? Yellow.
2. Name the only heavyweight boxing champion to finish his career of 49 fights without ever having been defeated? Rocky Marciano.
3. How many times was the Men’s Tennis Singles at Wimbledon won by Bjorn Borg? Five.
4. Name the game played on a lawn called a ‘crown green’. Bowls.
5. Which chess piece can only move diagonally? A bishop.
6. Which is the only American state to begin with the letter ‘p’? Pennsylvania.
7. Name the world’s biggest island? Greenland.
8. What is the world’s longest river? Amazon.
9. Name the world’s largest ocean. Pacific
10. Name the actor who starred in 142 films including The Quiet Man, The Shootist, The Searchers and Stagecoach. John Wayne.
11. Which Actress has won the most Oscars (4 Oscars & 12 nominations)? Katharine Hepburn
12. Name the three primary colors. Red, yellow and blue.
13. How many valves does a trumpet have? Three
14. In publishing, what does POD mean? Print on demand.
15. What is an e-book? A book available in a digital, rather than printed, format.

Just like this quiz, trying to find new purpose and heal your personal grief and loss, you don’t readily know all the answers. After your grief experience, at first, you may not be able to think with clarity. As you begin to come out of your grief and loss cave, pondering deeply may temporarily dispel your grief and sorrow. However, you want your understanding and healing to be permanent.

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow. ” ~Melody Beattie

Searching for ways you can count all the reasons you have to be grateful is an important, essential and beneficial exercise which needs repeated more than once. Gratitude can make sense of the past and bring personal hope for the future.

My Anticipation About Your Grief My hope about the sorrow you feel is that as you began reading this article you were thinking about something other than your sorrow. Even engaging in simple quiz questions underscores the importance of engaging yourself in worthwhile activities. Go to Amazon and purchase an inexpensive joke book to read in your leisure. Going to the park, shopping, a gratitude dinner with others, parties, doing something with family or friends, reading good books, listening to your choice of music, and worshipping in your own way, are only a few examples of being engaged. As you involved your thoughts in hopeful fun activities did it help you focus less on your grief? My hope is after you have read this article you will recognize the power to heal comes from engaging in many worthwhile activities.

Positive, Humorous and Happy Activities You may have thought the foregoing quiz lacked humor. You may feel a need to engage your thoughts in other meaningful humor that is more fitting to your personality. The important thing is that good humor and happy positive thoughts focus on worthwhile feelings. They can place before you – thoughts and feelings that are positive and uplifting. Your positive, humorous and happy activities should be your personal desired actions. Misery and humor are difficult to carry in your brain at the same time. Let humorous and happy thoughts control – not sorrowful feelings.

Gratitude and Thankfulness Thanksgiving and Memorial Day are traditions in the U. S. about expressing gratitude. Were it that thanks and expressions of appreciation and gratitude were a year-round tradition. Giving thanks for many is a time to reflect on life’s blessings. On Memorial Day opportunity is available to honor our dead and those who have served us in many direct and indirect ways. My heart swells as I witness the many decorated cemeteries honoring our dead. Unfortunately for many it is another day or weekend to play and the memory of showing gratitude is not honored or is a very fleeting consideration. Our society – for too many – is a selfish self-seeking culture.

Yet, the ritual of expressing gratitude is done in a variety of ways by many. Would you consider writing a letter to someone who has impacted your life in a positive way? Express your gratitude. You will be surprised the joy you bring to that person as he/she receives your personalized gratitude letter. Have you considered a gratitude journal or diary? Would you consider counting your blessings one by one? In spite of the consequences of your grief it may very well surprise you, as you tally thankful expressions, the many blessings you have received. It is my hope that making a gratitude list will help you. Writing down your unique gratitude’s can be inspiring and empowering. My sincere hope is that you can find renewed gratitude and with it hope to reconcile your grief.

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